Start comparing yourself to you, not to others: 5 WAYS to cultivate love, care and respect for yourself

OHMYGOSSIP – How to love yourself? What can you do to have respect for yourself? How to care for yourself? The most important relationship we have in life is the one with ourselves. We play the main role in our lives. The journey to loving yourself is not always easy, but these tips from “The Artist of Happiness” by Hedvig Evert will help you build a better relationship with yourself.

1. Take paper and pencil. Evaluate the five relationships that are most important to you by adding a plus sign to those where you feel valued, happy, and truly noticed, and a minus sign to those where you feel limited, harassed, uncomfortable. Then reduce the amount of time you put into negative relationships, eventually eliminating them altogether.

2. Find at least half an hour every day just for yourself, and do something truly enjoyable without involving anyone else: make yourself an aroma bath (for example, you can feel great with E & S´ lavender salt), go swimming or go riding or go for walks in the forest, read your favorite book for an hour, forgetting all your responsibilities, take your time when getting ready to go out and then go for a walk, make yourself a playlist of your favorite music, turn off your phone in the middle of the day and go cycling.

In short, do the things you enjoy most, and do them for yourself, and not for others. Continue like that every day.

3. Learn to say “NO” and “YES” and practice it based on your own wishes, and avoid anticipating and thinking for other people’s wishes. If you feel that you like something or want to participate, say “YES”, if not, say “NO” without apologizing or giving elaborate reasons.

4. Gradually try to eliminate the need to excel and please others. If you are a perfectionist and love to refine everything, practice putting things aside and leaving a mess by doing something else instead, and learn to enjoy it without blaming yourself or punishing yourself for not putting an end to the activity.

If you are the type that has a hard time completing things, give up the entertainment until you finish / present / deliver it, and acknowledge the feeling when you got it done ahead of time, on time, or received positive feedback.

5. Start comparing yourself to you, not to others. Are you more loving, affectionate, understanding today than you were a year ago? Do you understand the consequences of your words, actions, attitudes to yourself and others more clearly today than a year ago?

Do you do something small every day that shows that you know how to save yourself: find time for a decent lunch, eat healthy food, wear the right clothing size and the right style for you, or express gratitude in your words and mind for everything in your life that is better today than yesterday?

When you start focusing on yourself instead of others, you may soon notice three important changes: your well-being begins to get better, your health improves, and the quality of your relationships becomes more satisfying.

It all starts the moment you decide that you yourself are at the forefront of your life, and that you are able to change all aspects of it, if you wish, and you will learn to enjoy the responsibility of making your life beautiful, with increased freedom, happiness, and sense of peace.

Change and love your life, and take care of yourself first so that you can offer the same to your loved ones!

Source: Ohmygossip.ee
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